It’s a two-way street
yup, we’re back to the long-term relationships again
What makes a relationship? Which components are necessary in order to have a real, meaningful and long-term relationship? How much should each person involved put in, or invest if you will, into a relationship? And why am I not working for a degree to become a therapist with all this talk about relationships instead of setting My heart on research?
Don’t mind the last question. That’s My thinking out loud which I tend to indulge in a lot. Of course, the answer to that last question is the simpler one compared to the rest: I feel that research would benefit Me and the rest of the population a lot more. I love learning and discovering; that is My nature: to pick at things, analyze, look for patterns, tweak and experiment, then learn more. The one reason I don’t want to become a therapist (as if I’m not one already in a way) is because of the simple rule: you can’t help those who do not want to help themselves. I find it a waste of My time and efforts to attempt and offer help, compassion and understanding to those who are only going to keep making sad excuses for themselves without actually trying to change their lives as they claim they want to.
That’s a bit of a personal philosophy for you there. 😉 But I digress from the topic at hand, which is: relationships. I know you’ve heard it before. Yes, it’s a two-way street, and even here in the fetish world of phone sex that same rule applies. I’ve spoken a bit about long-term relationships before and you can browse My blog if you’ve missed it to catch up with My views and ideas on what it has to do with the phone sex in the first place. And if you have been following My blog for a while, then you are aware of several long-term relationships I have with some of My puppets.
A recent e-mail from someone who’s been calling Me on and off for 6 years has prompted Me to delve a bit into this matter once again. This young man has mentioned few times in his letter to Me of how I might not remember him in the sea of thousands of clients as well as his desire to have a long-term relationship. While My answer to him will be complimentary to this entry, I wanted to make some distinctions for those who are searching for something different and have forgotten in their pursuit of fantasy that it’s a two-way street. Yes, I’m going to keep reminding you of this until it is drummed into your consciousness.
One of the distinctions I wanted to bring to attention is the difference between a client and a puppet/puppy/slave that I claim as Mine. Clients fall into the categories of 1) called or purchased content less than 10 times in a life-time, 2) a regular caller/buyer over a period of time, also can be called as wanker, whose contact is for the purpose of only sexual gratification, 3) a regular caller shared with multitude of other flirts, some personal exchange (real-life experiences, laughter, intellectual discussions etc), and 4) clicker, or potential clients, who have never made any contact with Me before.
Now, while I might call everyone in general “darlings” and “puppets”, for most it is just a part of the fantasy. Those who do fall into the category of My “pets” are the ones with whom I have developed a relationship over the years, who’s intimate details, thoughts and desires I know from speaking to them often over the phone, email or yahoo messenger; as well as personal details about their lives (and they’re allowed to be privy to some of Mine as well), with whom I laugh or have long intense conversations about serious and not so serious things. My pets are the ones that are there on regular basis to take care of Me, pamper Me, cheer Me on, be cheered on by Me, share their everyday lives with Me and accept Me as I am: seductive, wicked, moody, funny, sadistic, bewitching, ignorant and arrogant, charming, sweet or cruel and everything in between.
But back to the “it’s a two-way street” thing. No relationship can survive when it’s only one person that tries to keep it alive. As one of My closest “vanilla world” friends says: “relationship is not 50/50. It is 100/100 and only that way.” Remember that saying “you get what you put in”? I know that most of My callers fall into a category of “wankers” which means they only get so much of My attention as it’s required for Me to give them. I am good at what I do and My miles long feedback on Niteflirt can testify for that. Those wankers and I are content with that arrangement. It doesn’t mean I will give less of a quality call or content, just that this is what it looks like. They call Me to get off, I get them off and get pad for it and next time we do it all over again. Done. Both sides are happy with the outcome.
However, there is a good majority that looks for a connection beyond simple “wank-wank, thank you Ma’am.” That need for a personalized touch, a real person, confidant, companion, or as the 21st century has dubbed it eGirlfriend/Virtual Girlfriend. In this virtual world it doesn’t matter if you’re married, single or in a vanilla relationship. Not every real-world relationship is perfect or satisfies every need and desire. It doesn’t mean, however, that I will allow you to be a total jerk to the woman in your life or do something stupid like tell Me you want to leave your wife and children to be with Me or anyone else for that matter if I see they are completely taking advantage of you and do not care an ounce for you or your loved ones. What it does mean is that I fill the blank and void spaces in your life left or being unable to be filled by those in your immediate surroundings.
It also doesn’t mean you shouldn’t devote yourself to Me as much as possible even if you are otherwise in a relationship. That would be one of the things required of you on this two-way street. If I am going to devote My personal time to open you up to endless possibilities of you fulfilling your needs, I expect nothing short of devotion in return.
Being as transparent as you possibly can be is also helpful. I have said it before and will say it again: I am NOT a mind reader. Want to earn My trust and be in My inner circle? Take a leap of faith and show Me who you are.
No, I don’t mean give Me your full name, address, social security number and etc. Share a little, even insignificant, details about your life, speak of your goals, dreams and hopes and you’d be surprised how few minutes of casual conversation can make the connection not only stronger but also more meaningful. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable if you’re seeking true intimacy. And don’t be afraid to ask Me questions in return. Not only will I keep what personal details you’ve shared with Me confidential unless you request otherwise, but I just might satisfy your quarry about Myself.
Please keep in mind the distinction between building a lasting relationship and asking questions that we both know you’re asking to masturbate to. At best, if you don’t ask them while we’re on the phone, I will charge you for the answers and if you never pay but keep asking via email/messenger I will begin to completely ignore you. At worst, I will block you and that will put an end to any relationship you have hoped to achieve. Only certain pets have earned the privilege of getting some of those answers when we’re chatting and continue to have it because they have not taken advantage of My generosity and respect My wishes and time I allocate for each of them.
There may be a lot required of you, or very little, depending on how deep this connection develops between us but as long as you follow the simple rules and remember your place in My life, the demands I place on you will not seem harsh but quite pleasurable. In order for Me to walk down My side of the street to meet you in the middle and bestow My attention on you, you first must show Me that not only you understand those simple rules but that you are willing to walk the distance. It also helps a great deal when you spell out what kind of and how deep a relationship you are looking for as well.
Now, My side of the street is a bit more complicated as one of the things you must keep in mind is that I am just one person with a life outside Niteflirt that includes people that depend on Me, as well as My own interests I pursue in life. Then you also must take into account My personality; you either love it or you don’t, can live with it or can’t stand the frustration some of My moods might leave you experiencing. But don’t worry, unless it absolutely amuses Me as it does with jack, I won’t torment you much as I ignore your attempts to get My attention. That one (jack) always makes Me laugh with the way he streams love proclamations, puffs and huffs in frustration, and then whimpers in agony the longer I make him wait for even one single word.
Also, there is some truth to the young man’s words ” You believe that you don’t need to do any work because I’ll do it all myself. The “seed” is planted”. To a point, it is correct. I do plant the seeds but it doesn’t take much work to be Myself either and if I had to work at it, it would be fake. Neither I Myself, nor Satan for those of you dark sinners, hold anyone against their will. Giving up control is one thing, but even then you are doing it willingly as well. And no relationship can survive if one or both parties are forced to be there or can’t accept each other for who they are.
I am who I am, love Me for it or just lust for outer package but in either case do not forget that the terms are set by Me and this show is ran by Me as well. While I will take your desires into consideration and I am fair enough to look for a compromise when it calls for it, I am the one who makes the rules. If you are easily offended by My sudden absences or unable to handle the silence from Me when I need to recharge in My own private space that even family and closest friends had to get used to, then I will simply move on down that street. It may be inconsiderate of Me, and even rude at times, but we all have our own quirks and this one works for Me. Besides, neither one of us will benefit or will be happy if I turn into a cruel Mistress and start slinging hexes left and right. I do prefer My seductive spells and charming personality, as I know you do as well and wish for nothing short of pleasing Me like a good boy.
I am going to leave off there for right now since I have made it quite a lengthy post and I do believe there is some prey that has been nibbling on the bait of being bounded to Me in a long-term relationship… *EvilGrin*