with your Phone sex Mistress
and quality vs quantity
Before you begin to deny and laugh at the concept of you having an ongoing long-term relationship with your phone sex Mistress, Goddess, Queen or however she expects to be addressed by you, you might want to pause and consider it as a fact. Many don’t view their daily, weekly and even monthly calls as a long-term relationship because it’s simply not a face-to-face interaction in the real world. Yet, contrarily to the idea of indulging in your fantasies for purely sexual relief, and this might sneak up on you as a surprise, you are having a real relationship, some with one and others with few regularly called by you Mistresses.
Before I get into the differences of long-term relationships and whoring around, quantity, quality, quickies and saving a buck, let’s talk about this “relationship” stuff.
It may come to you as a shock or might be a logical thought that you are indeed interacting and participating in a social ritual called relationship with a woman you have never met beyond the monetary exchange for sexual gratification. If you’ve been calling long enough, and I would say a period of few months and/or going to years, then you are engaging in something more than calling your favorite Flirt who can get you off the best; you’re becoming emotionally attached. Just as if you were dating in a real world, when you call around you’re looking for someone compatible to you and your needs and once you’ve established the right connection you continue to call that one Mistress/Goddess/Queen etc because those needs are being met, cultivated and nurtured progressively throughout continued interchange. There is a certain degree of intimacy, trust and reliance as well as affection involved as the main components and dynamics of this union just as they are in a face-to-face long-term relationship. Most often small talk, or pillow talk if you prefer it, is involved which leads to getting to know each other and enhancing the experience, strengthening the connection. Communication about mutual desires (you learning how to please your Mistress and voicing your fantasies or hard limits are considered as communication in this instance as well as a prime example) shape the relationship and add strength to it over a period of time just as it does when you communicate to your significant other in the real world your hopes and aspirations for your life as a couple. Overall this type of conjunction is no different than any others you have in your life beyond phone sex.
Looking at it from that point of view might scare some of you because you seek out phone sex for SEX not a RELATIONSHIP! Yet, looking from a different side you’ll notice that those two go hand in hand constantly! Shocker, isn’t it? Of course you can have casual sex with no strings attached but what do you really seek unless you really are once of those people unable to commit and form attachments throughout their lifespan? A long-term relationship. It has by far a lot more advantages than a quick tousle in the sheets in some cheap motel with a different person every weekend.
Meeting of your needs? Mutual enjoyment? Affection? Special treatment? Intimacy and trust? Yes, all of the above! Only it gets even better because in your real world it’s either difficult to find someone who understands your kinks and fetishes or impossible to confide in your wife/girlfriend for fear of being seen as a pervert, sicko, mentally ill or some other dumb reason that falls into this category. Truthfully, even though the sexual revolution of 60’s and 70’s has changed the way we as a society look at sex, people are still afraid of anything that would fall beyond doing it the in the dark in the missionary position and maybe sometimes doggy style sex at best.
Most of My regulars, puppets, puppies, slaves and sluts, that have been calling Me for a while will recognize the above descriptions as well as agree that as time progresses and the more we get to know each other, the deeper our connection and bond. Of course there is a bond, darlings, as well as mutual caring. As My puppets know, their Queen is happiest when My needs are taken care of and I know a well cared for puppet is a happy and devoted puppet. It’s a two-way street, a relationship where both parties must put in an effort in order for it to prosper.
Now let’s look at quickies, hopping (or whoring around) and saving a buck. Many are under the false impression that calling tons and tons of different PSOs and/or calling cheaper rates will give them a better “rounded off” experience. Sure, a cheaper rate means you can talk longer or more frequently but in most cases you get pretty much what you pay for: a cheap talk. Well, that is if you even get the same girl on the same line. Then we revert to the same principle of a quick tousle in a cheap motel. Wham, bang and not even a thank you Ma`am. No delicate touches perfected over time that make you feel even remotely special or even worth remembering as you are just another quick buck at the end of the day. No personal connection, just a coupon once in a while to hop on the express lane of “get on, get off, get out”. Part of a routine day, just like any other day on a conveyer belt of life in your vanilla and phone sex worlds. Another brief, meaningless, empty, and soon forgotten experience by both you and the countless PSOs that you picked just because they were available and you needed to get off.
And that’s alright in the busy scheme of life. We all have things to take care, work to do, families to take care of. And it’s our right to live a monotonous life. But then again, you are just as much of a human being as the next person and, humans being social creatures, you find yourself craving to be accepted, be someone worth being remembered, understood and desperately in need of some form of affection, even if it comes in between of spanking or in form of delicious torment on your physical and mental senses. Then, at the very end, and probably the most important ingredient, you want to share yourself with another human being. Experiences, fantasies, hopes, dreams, opinions… Sex is a major part of life but it does come with strings attached, emotional needs strings, and unless you live on Inis Beag Island or you are a socio/psychopath you’re going to spend your entire life being pulled by those strings. Sorry, darlings, but that’s just the way it is and there is no escape from it.
To wrap it up, this isn’t about being monogamous at all. It’s quantity vs quality and what is most beneficial to you. Yes, another shocker. I am a Queen and it should be ALL about ME, yet what kind of Queendom would one have if the subjects are unhappy and uneducated in finer things? They’ll be not more but livestock and who would miss a sheep now and again, they’re only sheep.
Don’t be a sheep, darling, and go, make connection, work on that bond with your Mistress, Goddess, Queen, the one who knows you, your needs, your secrets and doesn’t judge you in the least. The one who’ll cultivate you to become somebody that deep down inside you wish to be. They’re always benefits to reap from a relationship. *WickedGrin*